The part about negative assumptions dissolving when you observe them like clouds is true for me. Most of the time, the story you tell yourself about someone's intentions is just that—a story. They weren't attacking you. They were distracted, stressed, or thoughtless. The interpretation is yours, not theirs. When you stop feeding that interpretation with attention and just let it pass, it usually does.
Agreed. I took exactly this path with a colleague at the beginning of this year. My initial reaction was mistrust and an instinct toward avoidance. Something told me there was more to the story, however. After careful consideration, I decided to lean in, get curious, and let the situation develop without trying to control it. Ten months later, I'm pleased to report that I've been very pleasantly surprised to find a new ally in this person.
The part about negative assumptions dissolving when you observe them like clouds is true for me. Most of the time, the story you tell yourself about someone's intentions is just that—a story. They weren't attacking you. They were distracted, stressed, or thoughtless. The interpretation is yours, not theirs. When you stop feeding that interpretation with attention and just let it pass, it usually does.
Agreed. I took exactly this path with a colleague at the beginning of this year. My initial reaction was mistrust and an instinct toward avoidance. Something told me there was more to the story, however. After careful consideration, I decided to lean in, get curious, and let the situation develop without trying to control it. Ten months later, I'm pleased to report that I've been very pleasantly surprised to find a new ally in this person.
Thank you!