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Dan Rosolini's avatar

The part about negative assumptions dissolving when you observe them like clouds is true for me. Most of the time, the story you tell yourself about someone's intentions is just that—a story. They weren't attacking you. They were distracted, stressed, or thoughtless. The interpretation is yours, not theirs. When you stop feeding that interpretation with attention and just let it pass, it usually does.

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Aspergers in Wonderland's avatar

Agreed. I took exactly this path with a colleague at the beginning of this year. My initial reaction was mistrust and an instinct toward avoidance. Something told me there was more to the story, however. After careful consideration, I decided to lean in, get curious, and let the situation develop without trying to control it. Ten months later, I'm pleased to report that I've been very pleasantly surprised to find a new ally in this person.

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Katherine Langford's avatar

Thank you!

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Ron Huxley LMFT's avatar

A great truth: “You’ll find that most of your wild and negative assumptions end once you start paying them attention as you do the clouds”.

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Mieko Horikoshi's avatar

What a timely article to show up in my inbox. Thank you. I needed to read this. It's a kind of wisdom to create a harmonious life at both the individual and public levels. Thank you so much for reminding me to keep my heart open to let the story unfold.

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Luch of Truth's avatar

The greatest problem isn’t what we assume, but how easily we mistake our assumptions for truth. Unchecked thoughts build walls faster than words ever could.

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The Soft Life's avatar

Short but so impactful. Thank you for this <3

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