How to Deepen Your Friendships Part 2
Nothing delights the mind as much as loving and loyal friendship.
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“Nothing delights the mind as much as loving and loyal friendship.” — Seneca
“With the exception of wisdom, I’m inclined to believe that the immortal gods have given nothing better to humanity than friendship.” — Cicero
There were days when my phone didn’t buzz once unless it was a food app alert or a work reminder. I’d leave the office and walk home past crowded restaurant patios, watching groups of friends lean in close, laughing in that easy, unthinking way that comes from years of knowing each other. I didn’t have that. I’d tried - dropped hints about meeting up, hanged around after work hoping for an invite - but nothing stuck. It wasn’t just being alone that sucked; I felt like everyone else was good at friendship except me.
When I did get invited somewhere - a coworker’s birthday, a neighbor’s barbecue - I carried the weight of that loneliness with me. I’d stand at the edges of the crowd, drink in hand, unsure where to step in. My small talk ran dry in seconds. People smiled politely before turning back to the friends they actually knew. I left those nights with the same hollow feeling I arrived with, only now paired with the sting of having tried and failed to fit in.
At some point, I stopped waiting for connection to happen on its own. I started looking closely at the people who seemed to build great friendships naturally, paying attention to what they did differently - how they stayed in touch, carved out time, created moments that pulled people closer. Bit by bit, I began piecing together a set of actions that made forming deeper friendships less a matter of luck and more a matter of choice. This guide will share those steps so you can turn casual connections into strong friendships and keep the ones who matter most, closer.
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