Bullying becomes especially damaging when someone else’s behaviour starts changing the way you see yourself. You may not control what they say or do, but you can protect your judgement from becoming their evidence.
True power is not in 'fighting back' or 'enduring.' Both come from the ego. When you wear a mask—like being a 'tough surgeon'—you invite others to break it. Bullies can only wound your ego, they cannot touch you. Drop the mask, set your boundaries from a place of absolute inner silence, and no one will have the power to humiliate you.
It's interesting how easily laughing something off can become a way of adapting to a situation we don't feel comfortable with. I did that, I learned to make my nervousness funny, and it took me years to realize that laughing or joking things off can hurt me as well in certain situations.
Bullying becomes especially damaging when someone else’s behaviour starts changing the way you see yourself. You may not control what they say or do, but you can protect your judgement from becoming their evidence.
True power is not in 'fighting back' or 'enduring.' Both come from the ego. When you wear a mask—like being a 'tough surgeon'—you invite others to break it. Bullies can only wound your ego, they cannot touch you. Drop the mask, set your boundaries from a place of absolute inner silence, and no one will have the power to humiliate you.
Sounds just like 3/4 of medical school and 4/4 of internship and residency. At least what I can remember of it, much is blocked off.
It's interesting how easily laughing something off can become a way of adapting to a situation we don't feel comfortable with. I did that, I learned to make my nervousness funny, and it took me years to realize that laughing or joking things off can hurt me as well in certain situations.
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The only thing one can do is control what u can and leave the rest to God or whatever.
Speak up too. Inaction is an injustice.