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XI. Regret Nothing

It's about time you forgive yourself.

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Oct 01, 2024
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Two things we must therefore root out: fear of distress in the future and the memory of distress in the past. The one concerns me no longer. The other concerns me not yet." — Seneca

It’s easy to get lost in the regret of missed opportunities, avoidable mistakes, words you didn't mean to say.

A cloud of bad vibes follows you everywhere you go. It seeps into your work, affects your family's connection and joy. You also won't be in a stable mental position to have fun with your friends.

Sometimes you might even get comfortable ruminating. It becomes an avoidance mechanism from the work you know you should do to make things better right now.

That's no way to live. It's about time you forgive yourself.

Remember life happens right now and you can curve a new trajectory in this moment — through your attitude, courage, and wisdom.

Learn from the past and stop it at that. The despondency doesn't add any value to your life.

You’ll look back at what you regret months from now and see how it shaped you to be better, stronger, smarter.

You’ll be proud of the choice you made to get over yourself and live.

Sure, you can’t stop your mind from going back to the regrettable event. But you can look at it with acceptance and love. That way, it won’t have power over you.

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