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This is How Your Enemies Can Help You Prosper

Friends come from hell.

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Feb 04, 2024
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“A blazing fire (reason) makes flame and brightness out of everything that is thrown into it.” —Marcus Aurelius.

Nature has equipped man with this uncanny ability to benefit from unseemly enterprises: rationality. Enemies, contrary to popular belief, can spur the prudent and bold man into excellence. The following is an exposition of how you can get this benefit and why you should welcome foes instead of living with fear, anxiety and awkwardness — a kind of death, at their behest. They might just be what you need.

  1. An overlooked step in creating goals or eradicating bad habits is the usefulness of fear, disgust, and shame. Wisdom is thinking of dire consequences one would like to avoid, e.g. think of the shame of eating a cookie when you had vowed not to, which can catapult one to overcome destructive patterns, fear, hesitation, procrastination, or other petty but exorbitant weaknesses. Disgust toward an idea, an individual, or a group of people, gives rebe…

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