On HeartBreak

Some things are in your power. Most things aren’t.

The Ninth Month by Steve Hanks. Everything that happens to you and however painful it might be is, in reality and depending on how you see it, pregnant with an advantage.

“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things.” – Epictetus

Nobody warned you it would feel like this.

Not just sadness – something more debilitating. Like you’ve lost a version of yourself. Like the future you’d built in your head has been condemned and bulldozed into oblivion.

I’ve been there. And I’ve found that the people who helped me most weren’t the ones who said “you’ll find someone better.” They were a group of men who died two thousand years ago.

The Stoics. And they have something to say about your broken heart- having themselves went through their fair share of this human condition. They lost children, spouses, friends- and they found their way through it all.