I resonate deeply with this post. Gratitude has the power to transform our lives for the better. It reveals that there is so much more than what society has taught us as children and teens. Stoicism and gratitude have both profoundly changed my life 🫶🏻.
I struggled until my mid 50s with performance perfection. It’s of course rooted in childhood, feeling the need to do everything perfectly in order to secure my parents’ love. This behaviour plagued me throughout my corporate existence feeling the pressure to perform perfectly for bosses. Feeling so self conscious. Feeling so discombobulated that I eventually quit and walked away completely from that first version of my adult life.
Your post today and sharing the quote from Roy Baumeister just unlocked something momentous for me that I will take into this second chapter of my adult life: pressure consciousness causes performance to diminish because its desperation to control (the outcome) interrupts the innate wisdom and flow that we have unconsciously within us. Just be. Innately me. Always.
Most of us are overthinking, trying to predict the future and thus worrying that we’re not doing a good enough job. We set high standards for ourselves and these only exist in our heads, the people around us are baffled as to why we’re unhappy although we got a great life from where they’re standing. And it’s actually a good thing to look at yourself from another standpoint, because then you remember how much you actually have - the freedom to roam around, listen to your favourite music, express your opinion, go for a walk, eat your favourite meal. How lucky you actually are, because not all of us can afford to experience these feelings. So, chill out and have fun. Don’t take yourself too seriously!
It takes a lot of water to flow down the river before we grasp a simple truth. Sooner or later, we all do. And the earlier we see it, the more life feels like a river - calm on the surface, powerful underneath.
I resonate deeply with this post. Gratitude has the power to transform our lives for the better. It reveals that there is so much more than what society has taught us as children and teens. Stoicism and gratitude have both profoundly changed my life 🫶🏻.
This is my favourite post from you. Wow!
I struggled until my mid 50s with performance perfection. It’s of course rooted in childhood, feeling the need to do everything perfectly in order to secure my parents’ love. This behaviour plagued me throughout my corporate existence feeling the pressure to perform perfectly for bosses. Feeling so self conscious. Feeling so discombobulated that I eventually quit and walked away completely from that first version of my adult life.
Your post today and sharing the quote from Roy Baumeister just unlocked something momentous for me that I will take into this second chapter of my adult life: pressure consciousness causes performance to diminish because its desperation to control (the outcome) interrupts the innate wisdom and flow that we have unconsciously within us. Just be. Innately me. Always.
Thank you!
Henry David Thoreau, “Simplicity. Simplicity. Simplicity.”
What a joy it is to be alive and have people to love and be loved. I took it for granted for far too long. Bless you all.
This was beautiful.
Most of us are overthinking, trying to predict the future and thus worrying that we’re not doing a good enough job. We set high standards for ourselves and these only exist in our heads, the people around us are baffled as to why we’re unhappy although we got a great life from where they’re standing. And it’s actually a good thing to look at yourself from another standpoint, because then you remember how much you actually have - the freedom to roam around, listen to your favourite music, express your opinion, go for a walk, eat your favourite meal. How lucky you actually are, because not all of us can afford to experience these feelings. So, chill out and have fun. Don’t take yourself too seriously!
Thanks for the post btw ❤️
I’m a software architect and engineer; the best software, meaning it’s readable, maintainable, and scalable, is always the simplest.
It would seem that simplicity is perhaps the key to all of life!
It takes a lot of water to flow down the river before we grasp a simple truth. Sooner or later, we all do. And the earlier we see it, the more life feels like a river - calm on the surface, powerful underneath.
❤️
I love this post. Very timely for me.
Sorry, it's "borne" rejection. Hope that helps.
Rejoice daily. Pray continuously. Be thankful in all circumstances.
Wake up every morning this way! Love Marcus Aurelius!
Nicely done. A living work of art, truly.
Wow, what a beautiful post. Thank you so much, it was encouraging!
Everyone chases greatness. Few remember that the privilege is simply being here to chase.
What I love in this is the reminder that joy isn’t in the scoreboard but in the sheer absurd beauty of participation.
📌 Life’s jackpot isn’t winning — it’s getting a ticket to the game.
⬖ Relearning gratitude as liberation at Frequency of Reason: bit.ly/4jTVv69